Why losing him is hard.

It is not easy when I lost him. It’s been like 365 days since he left, still I could not translate my feelings and make them into a proper sentence. Some part of me must have been paralyzed since he gone. Some part of me must be disfuctioning, and slowly dying.

When Hanief called me on that fateful date and told me that his brother “has gone”, i felt numbed.

“I know he (adip) has gone for umrah. I came late to airport, but i sent him off, rite after u left, Anep.”

“No, Lyd.. Abang’s gone. He passed on after he done his umrah. They are preparing for the solat jenazah now n then the funeral…”

I felt like my heart crushed into thousands of tiny pieces after he finished that sentence. I felt like as though I’m being pushed from the top of mount Everest point, and could be higher, plumetting myself to earth while my heartbeat raced so fast and then crashed my body to the ground… I felt that pain in me, i barely felt it.

Adips’ smiley face pictured in my mind. That guy? My man? My tough guy? My love? My partner? My soul? My soon-to-be husband???? He’s been taken away..???????? Is this serious????

I tried to digest the whole of Hanief’s sentences. Tried to understand words by words and pushed them straight through my mind. Tried to process what it was. Tried harder. But it was just too rough and too hard to my believe. Yet, too hard for a try. My brain was freezed.

OH NO…!! Ya Allah…. NO! NO! NO!! Ya Allah… No way..! He’s my guy, “You” know.. “You” are not taking him away…. Please, ya Allah… Please tell me this is just a mistake… Just some confusion…. They make mistake out of everything, whatever things are happening there in Makkah right now… Please ya Allah… Please gimme some hopes… Pleaseeeee……

My heart was begging and begging and begging with no emotions on my face, but with tears running down my cheek until i fell asleep… The next day I woke up at 4th April 2013, was my nightmare… I started to receive takziah wishes from everyone… I was just… Helpless. I am not sure was that really2 happening.. Or could it be some sort of news later – telling that it WAS a mistake, or at least – i’ll be waking up from this nightmare… But none of it happened as i went thru the whole day, and yet still received many takziah wishes from families and his frens…

My dearest Adief, I thought you’re just too young for this, sinned too much, and i’d just thought that your better life is just yet to be – after youre coming back from umrah. OUR better life instead… As what we always have talked about this before. But it turned out that I was wrong… For as you were one of those lucky ones, who was lucky enough to be HIS special guest for Baitullah, and He wanted you to “stay” in His house because there was Heaven was waiting for you… Ya Allah, Adief… My love… My sweetheart…

He was the man. He will always be the man for me for now and forever even though his time is up. He was always the man for me. The man who always provided me with a feeling of security. The man who blanketed myself away from worries and sadness. The man who knows to say the right things whenever things go wrong. He knows best of how to cheer me up every time life turned me down. He never failed at his attempts to make me smile. He never fail to make me happy.

He was the man. Yes, i was his princess, and he treated me like one. He always loved my smile. He ever told me that my smile is the essence in his world. “A smile that soothed my cloudy days.” (Yes, his words) A smile that he always used to cope his ‘turbulence day at work’ after touch-downs, and “a smile that i needed to mend my ‘aircraft defected’ at work”. (Yes, this too; was his words) And the stupid jokes i made to break his stress. “You nie sengal laa, hun… Tp sengal2 tu laa yg i sayang.” Was one of his fave line ever..

We were so in love through out the three-years-old-relationship. (the rest 7 years as a good friend) We spoilt each other with all the sweet names to call, poems, surprises, and gifts. We were obsessed to each other just enough to make us dropped our stupid arguements – at least 15 minutes after we blew it. We were in love enough to stand at the “longest” cold war we ever had; for 1 and a half day. We couldn’t stand the day when we were not talking to each other. We hated it when we were being quiet to each other. We didn’t want any days to pass by without someone saying something to each other… And we always cleared up the air before he was gone for his flight. Everytime he had his flying days, he will expect he will be going with zero argument hanging between us.. Our goodbye-and-take-care-and-have-a-safe-flight was always the sweetest…

He was a stern type. He will scold (nagged) me for my wronged but gentle enough to call me ‘Sweetheart’ or ‘Hun’ while nagging in his burning anger voice… He might have raised his voice a few times when i went wild and lost my temper through out our arguments, but he were gentle enough to say “i love you” everytime we lost our words because the argument we had had lead us to nowhere. We never ever hurt each other’s pride whenever we argued, no matter how bad angst had taken into control of ourselves, we always have respects on each other in arguments… AND, it always be ended with “i love you”…

Today, 4th April 2014. One year after his passing, 365 days of my survival without having him in my daily life…

Adip sayang, if i were given the last chance to see you standing right in front of my eyes before you’ll be going back to Heaven, i surely could not even open up my mouth and say it out loud things one by one. I have too many things inside my heart and my mind to let go to you… It will take the whole year of my miseries to let you know every single thing i wanted you to know… I will reserve that later, i will come and find you later in Heaven, no matter how long it gonna take me there… Let it be millions of years after my death, let it be you ahead of millions souls, i am still will be finding you soon… My love will bring myself to you…

As of now, i’m sure you’re resting in peace. “Sleep” tight, sayang… On top of everything, you deserve it… I just want to let you know that i… Am… Doing… Just fine right here. :’) I am still loving you. Never changed, never did. I have loved you in your best suit, I have loved you looking your very worst. You are the best i ever had…
I love you. But Allah love you more, so I’d just let you go…
Tinggallah, sayang. Nanti kita berjumpa lagi…

Al-fatihah to my Mr. Wing Badge. My love never died. It’s just have been in heaven… Adief Zaim, I LOVE YOU. REALLY.

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oh charming…

i loved you like there was no tomorrow.
and then one day, there wasn’t…

al-fatihah, sayang.  sleep tight up there…  it’s been 221 days without you.  i’m doing well down here… :’)

al-fatihah.
al-fatihah.
al-fatihah.
al-fatihah.
al-fatihah.
al-fatihah.
al-fatihah.

surat al-fatiha.  my “love letter” to you, for our “long-distance relationship” since you departed this world… :’)

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